Are You Headed for Promotion or a PIP this Performance Review Season?
Performance review season is the time to assess whether you’re on the path to promotion or facing a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP). These outcomes usually stand on opposite ends of a spectrum, and here’s how you can frame your perspective on your upcoming review.
I am seeking my next relationship and in this time of home sequestering. Virtual dating applications make the most sense. One person wrote about getting a rescue dog sight unseen, meaning over the internet. Her success accepting a rescue dog from Tennessee completely over the internet caused her to express her hope to have similar success finding a human partner. I admit to feeling at times like a mutt or used goods, but I don’t think that would be a smart way to present myself even to her.
Decisions, How to Make Good Ones
I shared a passage from Mark Nepo’s “The Book of Awakening” with my children titled “Consider or Enter.” These begin with a poem or saying. The poem read:
If you try to comprehend air before breathing it, you will die.
It was offered by me because of its timely message for how they were grappling with their current issues.
Path to the Life of Happiness
I received a call yesterday from my first client telling me she had just given her notice ending her 25 years with the company. My connection to this decision began three years ago and Helen’s journey presents a perspective on what it can take to leave a well-paid position, with significant authority in which she had spent years cultivating. Why would she do this?
Improve Your Golf Game to Improve Your Career
The summer is coming to a close which in New England means we have maybe eight weeks remaining for the hardiest of golfers. I never expected to become a golfer. I picked up the game as a way to fill the weekends my kids were with their mother. I have come to appreciate the challenge the game provides and it being a wonderful practice ground for mindfulness. Like the majority of golfers, I have a fade that flirts with being a slice. This, for the uninitiated means the ball flight will curve to the right for a right-handed golfer. A fade/to slice cuts down on the overall distance of the shot and frequently puts the ball into trouble.
What does living in fear mean?
There are references these days to “you shouldn’t respond out of your fear.” This most frequently is spoken when there is a major topic like the pandemic, global warming, social justice, or other. Fear is present for lesser moments in our lives robbing us of potential joy.
What does my vacation have to do with retirement?
Retirements are typically framed like an extended vacation. Our vacations are planned play time. We seek to be more active, outdoors, or visiting places. Retirement will be when we get to put our feet up and relax, play unlimited rounds of golf or hands of bridge, or take off to travel monthly. Retirement can often be thought of as play time, or at least a change from working. Either retirement or vacation, we wish to do what we can’t do while working.
Retirement: Destination or Experience?
During my introduction to a flight school, a pilot entered to turn in a rented plane. He lives in Alaska and said he returns monthly to NH for his job. He said he was the envy of his retired colleagues because he is working a week every month rather than being fully retired. He is a surgeon. He obviously likes his profession enough to make the monthly trek from Alaska. We talked further about the struggle his peers were having in this new phase of their lives.
Could happiness have more to do with who I am?
Sunday morning, I am slowly waking up by watching some show on Netflicks. I get a text from my son announcing someone else out bid him again. This was next house offers ending in disappointment. During this time there have been far more buyers than sellers resulting in the properties he has been seeking to have offers $20 to $30 thousand over asking price. Inspections and appraisals are now being waived in the offers by the buyers. The frenzy is building.
How to turn high anxiety decisions into life affirming experiences
I spent a week in July with my grandson. He recently turned two years old. Our thing that week was belly flops on the floor. He from standing and me from my knees. It was fun and it was not sustainable. My visit was also to help my son and daughter-in-law prepare their house for sale. I caulked baseboards, patched divots in the ceiling, painted, and did brush cleanup in the back yard among other activities. We were doing this while they were simultaneously monitoring the listings for their next home.
Watch out for this Retirement Trap
This past Sunday I went scouting for a site along the ocean to be used for a future outdoor evening meeting. Last Fall I had sat with friends on the rocky coastline star gazing. Finding this spot was needed so I could give directions to others. It was a hot sunny day. I anticipated there would be a lot of people and cars doing just what I was doing, and I was right. The stretch north of Ipswich, MA and through Amesbury was salt marsh giving way to the beach towns of Salisbury and Hampton Beach.
What is the fundamental tip for changing something in life?
Sunday June 21st I am sitting at a table facing a man behind a plexiglass screen listening to my daughter talk to him. I hear her say “this is more than I expected the cost to be and I need time to think about it.” Many of us have been in this situation, sans plexiglass screen. Her lease ends the last day of July, and she wanted to relocate for the next two months to be with family out of state. She wanted me present for support only as this was her deal.
When the future gets in the way of today
The teacher instructed us to soften our gaze and look around the room stopping on whatever caught our attention. Notice your experience and then continue scanning the room. My eyes stopped on the brick hearth. I then moved to the right and settled on a blank wall above waist level. I noted the level because my gaze was avoiding the plywood sheets tilted against the wall, the couple of floor lamps, three rugs, the packaging for the rugs, and the packing blankets resting on the woodstove.
Why is it so hard to listen to what I mean not what I said?
I have had two examples recently which underscore the importance of the alignment of what I wish to say with how it is being spoken.
My friend recounts his last twenty-four hours beginning with the declaration “Everything has changed!”. So, I am primed for Wow, what happened and what is this new reality? The story is relatively private so I will limit the details I provide……. Now, how are you going to tell if “Everything has changed” if I don’t give details? For purpose of this essay the details are not critical to the point. When I learned the details, what was said was a new piece of information had been uncovered.
To Social Distance or Not to Social Distance – that is the question.
Thursday, I found myself grappling with a personal conflict after my golf league match. Is it safe to mingle at the tables under the tent outside? The tables accommodate 8 chairs with normal spacing but that is not appropriate distancing and even if we pull back from the table. Do I voice my concern and have everyone follow my interpretation of the rules or quietly defer to the group? The conundrum is the differing interpretations and norms of the group.
Lessons from living a passionate life.
I am an abstract painter. My inspiration is the energy I feel. It could be within me, within another, or in a panorama. I used to say abstract art is easier because no one could criticize my interpretation as being inaccurate. Whereas if I painted a chair, there could be legitimate debate about the quality of the chair for we have the subject in front of us.
Make it Count
Its 11:30 May 5th at the commons of Amherst, NH. I am laying out a mover’s packing blanket, then putting an oriental rug on that. I had two folding chairs placed at opposite ends of the rug. To the side of the rug I have a four-foot portable table with two small vases holding newly purchased yellow daisies, a small tray with an apricot scone, a gluten free banana chocolate chip muffin and a tub of humus with rice crackers. There is a camp stove to boil water for tea and a storage box with extra blankets should we feel cold. I am set for my first date in the social distancing era.
What happens when the game changes?
In the seventies when I was entering the working world the objective was to find a company, commit my time and allegiance for the promise of a respectable retirement package. We were being offered security. I had not lived through the prior world wars nor the hard ships of the depression from which the basis of this offering was crafted. I did not know how lucky I was compared to what my father had faced at a similar age 30 years prior. It was the agreement and promise of working in America.
Epiphanies, awards and promotions
I woke Tuesday with thoughts rushing through my head. These thoughts came into alignment and settled down into an orderly insight. This Tuesday I connected to my purpose in life. The thing I have been seeking for over 40 years crystalized. Fireworks, bright lights, ear to ear smile, a chest full of joy…! How can I share the feeling? I know the limitation inherent in trying to write about a feeling. This is one that I want to share damn it. One of the most momentous in my life.